1 - In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster, But
in front of the person you like, you get happy.
2 - in front of the person you love, winter seems like spring. But
in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.
3 - If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush. But
if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.
4 - In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind. But
in front of the person you like, you can.
5 - In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy. But
in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.
6 - You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love. But
you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.
7 - When the one you love is crying, you cry with them. But
when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.
8 - The feeling of love starts from the eye But
the feeling of like starts from the ear.
So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears. But
if you try to close your eyes, love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever...
- Author Unknown
Blog provides Self Help Stories, Positive Thoughts, Inspirational Messages.
Wednesday, February 04, 2009
Monday, February 02, 2009
Beautiful Romantic Poem
What You Mean To Me
You . . .
Are the beginning of every day.
You . . .
Bring happiness and warm feelings
Each and every time I feel down.
My thoughts are of you constantly.
Time stands still when I cannot hear your sweet voice.
When I go to sleep at night,
In my mind, you are the one lying beside me.
My dreams are of us and when I wake,
I feel your presence.
You are the beacon that draws me,
Like a moth to a light.
Your kind words are a blessing to my ears.
Your unselfishness is a trait that many strive for,
Coming naturally to you.
Though you may feel down at times,
You still have kind words to share
Cheering others up.
When I tell you these three words,
Know they come from the heart:
"I love you" and everything about you.
- Author Unknown
You . . .
Are the beginning of every day.
You . . .
Bring happiness and warm feelings
Each and every time I feel down.
My thoughts are of you constantly.
Time stands still when I cannot hear your sweet voice.
When I go to sleep at night,
In my mind, you are the one lying beside me.
My dreams are of us and when I wake,
I feel your presence.
You are the beacon that draws me,
Like a moth to a light.
Your kind words are a blessing to my ears.
Your unselfishness is a trait that many strive for,
Coming naturally to you.
Though you may feel down at times,
You still have kind words to share
Cheering others up.
When I tell you these three words,
Know they come from the heart:
"I love you" and everything about you.
- Author Unknown
Friday, January 30, 2009
Special Poem on Love
Can’t Live Without You!!!!
Do you know who I am?
The man you love!
Who stays up nights.
Who thinks of you.
And do you care enough,
to think of me,for what I am?
I can’t live without you,baby!
You are the only one.
I care enough,to think about.
I can’t live without you,honey!
You are the only one.
Who cared enough,to comfort me.
Do you know what I need?
The love in life,you’ld give to me.
And if you share your life with me.
I will think of you everyday.
I can’t live without you,baby!
I need your loving ways.
Your tenderness,your sweet caress.
I can’t live without you,honey!
Your love,just fills me up.
It gives me strength,to carry on.
Do you know where to be,when I arrive,
to share my love?
Would you stand next to me?
So I can hold,and comfort you.
I can’t live without you,baby!
Your love’s the greatest thing.
The ultimate desire for me.
I can’t live without you,honey!
Your love will never end.
It will stay with me eternally.
Till the end of all time.
- Author Unknown
Do you know who I am?
The man you love!
Who stays up nights.
Who thinks of you.
And do you care enough,
to think of me,for what I am?
I can’t live without you,baby!
You are the only one.
I care enough,to think about.
I can’t live without you,honey!
You are the only one.
Who cared enough,to comfort me.
Do you know what I need?
The love in life,you’ld give to me.
And if you share your life with me.
I will think of you everyday.
I can’t live without you,baby!
I need your loving ways.
Your tenderness,your sweet caress.
I can’t live without you,honey!
Your love,just fills me up.
It gives me strength,to carry on.
Do you know where to be,when I arrive,
to share my love?
Would you stand next to me?
So I can hold,and comfort you.
I can’t live without you,baby!
Your love’s the greatest thing.
The ultimate desire for me.
I can’t live without you,honey!
Your love will never end.
It will stay with me eternally.
Till the end of all time.
- Author Unknown
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Beautiful Romantic Poem
Touch My Heart
Touch my heart with tenderness
And fill my cup with love,
Share my dreams as I share yours
And we'll reach the stars above.
Take my hand as I grow old,
And lead me when I'm blind,
I'll show you that I really care
True love is hard to find.
Touch my life and I'll touch yours
A little more each day,
And we can both find happiness
Somewhere along the way!
- Unknown
Touch my heart with tenderness
And fill my cup with love,
Share my dreams as I share yours
And we'll reach the stars above.
Take my hand as I grow old,
And lead me when I'm blind,
I'll show you that I really care
True love is hard to find.
Touch my life and I'll touch yours
A little more each day,
And we can both find happiness
Somewhere along the way!
- Unknown
Monday, January 26, 2009
Eternity Of Your Love
Your love is... an ocean,
Where sand meets the sea,
Waves of love rolling over me,
Your love comes to me,
As the tide comes to the shore,
Wanting and needing to embrace me more,
Your love is... the moon,
Shinning across the shimmering sea,
Deep, wide, strong, and calm.
Always there to carry me..
Your love is... my shelter,
My compass, my true north,
Where ever I go, your love is guiding me forth,
Your love is.... the fresh ocean breeze,
Gently sweeping across my face,
Touching me from place to place,
Your love is...
The salty air I smell,
Clearing my thoughts and thinking,
Your love is...
The life preserver that keeps me from sinking,
When I go there to the sea,
I am not alone, for your love is with me,
I feel you all around,
The beauty, the wind, the mystery,
Your love engulfs me,
Takes my breath away,
Holds me in wind's arms,
When I close my eyes,
Dancing memories of your charms,
Never escape my deepest memory,
So if ever our souls part to say goodbye,
Meet me there, where the sea meets the sky,
Your love will forever be with me,
Where the sands touch the sea,
Our love lives on,
Our love flows back out into all eternity.
- Unknown
Where sand meets the sea,
Waves of love rolling over me,
Your love comes to me,
As the tide comes to the shore,
Wanting and needing to embrace me more,
Your love is... the moon,
Shinning across the shimmering sea,
Deep, wide, strong, and calm.
Always there to carry me..
Your love is... my shelter,
My compass, my true north,
Where ever I go, your love is guiding me forth,
Your love is.... the fresh ocean breeze,
Gently sweeping across my face,
Touching me from place to place,
Your love is...
The salty air I smell,
Clearing my thoughts and thinking,
Your love is...
The life preserver that keeps me from sinking,
When I go there to the sea,
I am not alone, for your love is with me,
I feel you all around,
The beauty, the wind, the mystery,
Your love engulfs me,
Takes my breath away,
Holds me in wind's arms,
When I close my eyes,
Dancing memories of your charms,
Never escape my deepest memory,
So if ever our souls part to say goodbye,
Meet me there, where the sea meets the sky,
Your love will forever be with me,
Where the sands touch the sea,
Our love lives on,
Our love flows back out into all eternity.
- Unknown
Saturday, January 24, 2009
The Time For Love
Some say the time for love is Spring,
While nature blooms and newborn sing.
The innocent year's early hour
Is when the seeds of want will flower.
But others claim that Summer's best,
When suns are neither east nor west,
But overhead in youthful glory -
The longest page in love's short story.
Still others think that in the Fall
there's love for one and love for all -
While sailing under the autumn trees
Passion's true course is charted with ease.
And some prefer the frozen heart -
Cold white Winter's the place to start -
With no warmth to gain and none to lose,
The lonely, lifeless snows they choose.
But as for me the choice is clear:
'Tis every season I hold dear,
For time itself is time for lovers,
It matters not what climate covers.
Flowers and leaves, snow and sun -
When I'm with you, seasons are one;
A year of love I now live through,
And years will become a life with you.
- Author Unknown
While nature blooms and newborn sing.
The innocent year's early hour
Is when the seeds of want will flower.
But others claim that Summer's best,
When suns are neither east nor west,
But overhead in youthful glory -
The longest page in love's short story.
Still others think that in the Fall
there's love for one and love for all -
While sailing under the autumn trees
Passion's true course is charted with ease.
And some prefer the frozen heart -
Cold white Winter's the place to start -
With no warmth to gain and none to lose,
The lonely, lifeless snows they choose.
But as for me the choice is clear:
'Tis every season I hold dear,
For time itself is time for lovers,
It matters not what climate covers.
Flowers and leaves, snow and sun -
When I'm with you, seasons are one;
A year of love I now live through,
And years will become a life with you.
- Author Unknown
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Beautiful Love Poem
Why I Love You
I love you for so many reasons
Big and small
And all of them are wonderful.
I love you for all the special qualities
That make you one of a kind...
The only one in the world for me.
I love you for the things you do
That bring such special meaning to my life
I love you for the silent times
When your eyes and arms tell me all I want to know.
I love you
Just because I do
Because now
In the deepest part of my heart...
A place where there was nothing before
There is love.
- Unknown
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
What Is Life Without Love?
I fell in love with you once . . .
And while I couldn’t let you know immediately
Eventually, in time, all was revealed.
They say that when you fall into love,
It can never last.
They say that true love grows, takes time,
But from the time I first fell in love with you,
My love has grown.
I know now that if I had the choice
To do it all over again.
I would, without a moment’s hesitation.
Yes, there may be regrets.
Yes, there may be disappointments.
Yes, there may be uncertainty.
But what is life without love?
And while I know you’re not perfect -
After all, who is?
And while there may be things about you which get to me,
I love you, despite them all.
And while I’m sure there may be others,
Considered more beautiful, more lovely, more charming,
There are none considered by me.
For you, my love, are the most lovely in spirit,
The most charming in personality,
The most beautiful person I have ever known -
And as such, I love you.
I said I fell in love with you once -
Well, that wasn’t exactly true.
Because every time you look me in the eye,
And smile that smile of yours,
That bubbles up from within your heart,
I find myself falling in love with you all over again.
No matter what has happened in my day,
No matter how I feel,
I find my heart opening to you all over again
No matter what has happened in the past,
No matter what may, or may not happen in the future,
I find myself in love.
After all, what is life without love?
And what is love without you?
- Author Unknown
And while I couldn’t let you know immediately
Eventually, in time, all was revealed.
They say that when you fall into love,
It can never last.
They say that true love grows, takes time,
But from the time I first fell in love with you,
My love has grown.
I know now that if I had the choice
To do it all over again.
I would, without a moment’s hesitation.
Yes, there may be regrets.
Yes, there may be disappointments.
Yes, there may be uncertainty.
But what is life without love?
And while I know you’re not perfect -
After all, who is?
And while there may be things about you which get to me,
I love you, despite them all.
And while I’m sure there may be others,
Considered more beautiful, more lovely, more charming,
There are none considered by me.
For you, my love, are the most lovely in spirit,
The most charming in personality,
The most beautiful person I have ever known -
And as such, I love you.
I said I fell in love with you once -
Well, that wasn’t exactly true.
Because every time you look me in the eye,
And smile that smile of yours,
That bubbles up from within your heart,
I find myself falling in love with you all over again.
No matter what has happened in my day,
No matter how I feel,
I find my heart opening to you all over again
No matter what has happened in the past,
No matter what may, or may not happen in the future,
I find myself in love.
After all, what is life without love?
And what is love without you?
- Author Unknown
Monday, January 05, 2009
When You Don't Try
You've failed many times, although you don't remember.
You fell down the first time you tried to walk.
You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim.
Don't worry about failure.
Worry about the chances you miss,
when you don't even try.
- Unknown
You fell down the first time you tried to walk.
You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim.
Don't worry about failure.
Worry about the chances you miss,
when you don't even try.
- Unknown
Saturday, January 03, 2009
A True Friend
In life, its not the obvious things
that are important,
It's the seemingly insignificant
and often unseen things
that we appreciate.
The friend who asks us
how we are and genuinely wants
to know the answer.
The friend with the shoulder
wet from our tears
who makes time to listen to us again.
The friend who smiles
with their eyes
as well as their mouth.
The friend who says "I care"
simply by being there for you.
But most important of all
is the friend who knows you
with all your imperfections and shortcomings
and still loves you,
just the way you are.
- Unknown
that are important,
It's the seemingly insignificant
and often unseen things
that we appreciate.
The friend who asks us
how we are and genuinely wants
to know the answer.
The friend with the shoulder
wet from our tears
who makes time to listen to us again.
The friend who smiles
with their eyes
as well as their mouth.
The friend who says "I care"
simply by being there for you.
But most important of all
is the friend who knows you
with all your imperfections and shortcomings
and still loves you,
just the way you are.
- Unknown
Friday, January 02, 2009
4 Basic Things For A True And Ever Lasting Relationship
These four ingredients can be used in every sort of relationship. If you want them to be long lasting..
They are as follows...
1) Trust
You have to trust the person with whom u want to have relationship
2) Respect
You should respect each other.
3) Compromise
The two of you must compromise in different matters.
4) Patience
The important one..both of you should remain patient and take decisions after a deep thinking on every matter.
- Author Unknown
They are as follows...
1) Trust
You have to trust the person with whom u want to have relationship
2) Respect
You should respect each other.
3) Compromise
The two of you must compromise in different matters.
4) Patience
The important one..both of you should remain patient and take decisions after a deep thinking on every matter.
- Author Unknown
Thursday, January 01, 2009
Motivational Life Quotes
Relations are all about three things:
Winning, losing and sharing.
Winning heart.
Losing ego,
Sharing joy and sorrow.
So always be related.
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Reality is something to think.
Like a water that you drink.
This isn't a beauty you need to wink,
But a fact that your eyes shouldn't blink.
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We are like teabags whose strength comes out
when we're put in hot water.
So when problems beset you, just think,
you must be God's favourite cup of tea.
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~ Unknown
Winning, losing and sharing.
Winning heart.
Losing ego,
Sharing joy and sorrow.
So always be related.
=======================================
Reality is something to think.
Like a water that you drink.
This isn't a beauty you need to wink,
But a fact that your eyes shouldn't blink.
=======================================
We are like teabags whose strength comes out
when we're put in hot water.
So when problems beset you, just think,
you must be God's favourite cup of tea.
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~ Unknown
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Inspirational Success Thoughts
Destiny is not a matter of chance, It's a matter of choice;
It's not a thing to be waited for, It's a thing to be achieved.
~ William Jennings Bryan
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When you know what you want, and you want it badly enough,
you'll find a way to get it.
~ Jim Rohn
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In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.
~ Albert Einstein
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Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.
~ Henry David Thoreau
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Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
~ William Feather
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Challenges are what make life interesting;
overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.
~ Joshua J. Marine
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The thing always happens that you really believe in;
and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
~ Frank Lloyd Wright
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Success can never be controlled, but performance always can.
~ John F. Murray
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There are two ways of meeting difficulties:
you alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them.
~ Phyllis Bottome
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Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.
~ Unknown
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Whenever I hear, 'It can't be done,' I know I'm close to success
~ Michael Flatley
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To make yourself exceptional is the biggest achievement of your life.
~ Unknown
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It's not a thing to be waited for, It's a thing to be achieved.
~ William Jennings Bryan
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When you know what you want, and you want it badly enough,
you'll find a way to get it.
~ Jim Rohn
=========================================================
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.
~ Albert Einstein
=========================================================
Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.
~ Henry David Thoreau
=========================================================
Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
~ William Feather
=========================================================
Challenges are what make life interesting;
overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.
~ Joshua J. Marine
=========================================================
The thing always happens that you really believe in;
and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
~ Frank Lloyd Wright
=========================================================
Success can never be controlled, but performance always can.
~ John F. Murray
=========================================================
There are two ways of meeting difficulties:
you alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them.
~ Phyllis Bottome
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Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.
~ Unknown
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Whenever I hear, 'It can't be done,' I know I'm close to success
~ Michael Flatley
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To make yourself exceptional is the biggest achievement of your life.
~ Unknown
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Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Some Beautiful Leadership Quotes
Do not follow where the path may lead.
Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
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Leadership: The art of getting someone else to do something
you want done because he wants to do it.
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There go the people.
I must follow them for I am their leader.
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The history of the world is but
the biography of great men.
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The real leader has no need to lead--
he is content to point the way.
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Go to the people. Learn from them. Live with them.
Start with what they know. Build with what they have.
The best of leaders when the job is done, when the task is accomplished,
the people will say we have done it ourselves.
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The ultimate measure of a man is not
where he stands in moments of comfort,
but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
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To do great things is difficult;
but to command great things is more difficult.
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A good general not only sees the way to victory;
he also knows when victory is impossible.
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- Unknown
Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
=============================================
Leadership: The art of getting someone else to do something
you want done because he wants to do it.
=============================================
There go the people.
I must follow them for I am their leader.
=============================================
The history of the world is but
the biography of great men.
=============================================
The real leader has no need to lead--
he is content to point the way.
=============================================
Go to the people. Learn from them. Live with them.
Start with what they know. Build with what they have.
The best of leaders when the job is done, when the task is accomplished,
the people will say we have done it ourselves.
=============================================
The ultimate measure of a man is not
where he stands in moments of comfort,
but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
=============================================
To do great things is difficult;
but to command great things is more difficult.
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A good general not only sees the way to victory;
he also knows when victory is impossible.
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- Unknown
Monday, December 29, 2008
A Special World
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
- Unknown
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
- Unknown
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Relationship SECRETS
ANNIVERSARIES : Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together is a triumph.
APPRECIATION : Let each other know how much you appreciate each other. You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.
BEST FRIENDS : Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend. Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one. Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems. Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged. The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.
BOND : Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.
CHANGING EACH OTHER : Don't marry an as...le, j.... or a bi.... (an unsuitable person) You'll never change each other.
COMPLIMENTS : Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.
DATE: Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical attraction
DIFFERENCES : Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.
FIGHTS : Fight with the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other. The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot. Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.
FLAWS : Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.
FUN : Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door open etc. Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.
GOALS : Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.
GRUDGES : Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.
KEEPING IT HOT : Keep it hot by traveling to diff. places together. A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.
HONESTY : Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.
KNOW EACH OTHER : Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!
HUG : A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.
IDENTITY : Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love with you. Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be able to contribute more to the relationship.
INDEPENDENCE : Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.
IN-LAWS : Make rooms for the in-laws.
INTENTIONS : Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst.
ISSUESS : peak up about the awkward stuff now, like money & sex. The earlier, the better.
LISTEN : Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.
LOOK GOOD : Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.
LOVE : It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.
MEMORIES : Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before. It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.
MIND READING : No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind.
NEEDS : Be good to yourself,then be good to your partner. That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy?
Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings. Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically & emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you. Never take your partner for granted.
PRIORITIES : If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!
SPACE : Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy's night out. If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married.
SORRY : Say sorry when you're wrong.
SURPRISES : No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.
TEAMWORK : Think for two & always work as a team. Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you. Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.
SUPPORT : Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together.
Two heads are better than one.
TALK : Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart. Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it & have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life, even by email if you have to.
- Author Unknown
APPRECIATION : Let each other know how much you appreciate each other. You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.
BEST FRIENDS : Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend. Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one. Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems. Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged. The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.
BOND : Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.
CHANGING EACH OTHER : Don't marry an as...le, j.... or a bi.... (an unsuitable person) You'll never change each other.
COMPLIMENTS : Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.
DATE: Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical attraction
DIFFERENCES : Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.
FIGHTS : Fight with the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other. The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot. Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.
FLAWS : Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.
FUN : Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door open etc. Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.
GOALS : Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.
GRUDGES : Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.
KEEPING IT HOT : Keep it hot by traveling to diff. places together. A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.
HONESTY : Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.
KNOW EACH OTHER : Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!
HUG : A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.
IDENTITY : Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love with you. Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be able to contribute more to the relationship.
INDEPENDENCE : Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.
IN-LAWS : Make rooms for the in-laws.
INTENTIONS : Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst.
ISSUESS : peak up about the awkward stuff now, like money & sex. The earlier, the better.
LISTEN : Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.
LOOK GOOD : Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.
LOVE : It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.
MEMORIES : Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before. It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.
MIND READING : No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind.
NEEDS : Be good to yourself,then be good to your partner. That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy?
Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings. Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically & emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you. Never take your partner for granted.
PRIORITIES : If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!
SPACE : Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy's night out. If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married.
SORRY : Say sorry when you're wrong.
SURPRISES : No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.
TEAMWORK : Think for two & always work as a team. Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you. Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.
SUPPORT : Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together.
Two heads are better than one.
TALK : Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart. Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it & have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life, even by email if you have to.
- Author Unknown
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Balloons and Angels
Sometimes, it is the smallest acts of kindness that are the most memorable. It was several years ago that this particular event occurred; the reason I remember it because it was my daughter Kathy's birthday.
My children and I were finishing the last minute preparations for Kathy's birthday celebration. At one store we had bought colorful helium balloon with Kathy's favorite character design on it. We had to make one more stop at another store to complete our purchases. I sent out my older daughter and her little brother out to our van while my other daughter and I were waiting at the cashier line.
A very short time later, my older daughter with little brother in tow came running back into the store; upset that Kathy's birthday balloon had escaped while they trying to get into the van. I was tired from shopping, but I sent them back to the vehicle telling them not to worry we would get Kathy another balloon. I paid for our purchases all the while trying to think of the most expedient place to obtain another balloon.
As Kathy and I approached our van a mature looking lady with kindly face came up to us almost of out of thin air. She pressed some folded bills in my hand. She related to me that she had seen what had happened and did not want my older daughter or my younger daughter to be upset at the loss of the balloon. She told us that she was mother, grandmother and great grandmother. Mind you she looked barely old enough to be a grandmother much less a great grandmother.
I thanked her for kindness and attempted to give her the money back; as it was not a problem to get another balloon. She was most insistent because she said "I love children and I like to see them be happy." I was overwhelmed by the kindness of a total stranger that my daughters and I hugged the lady thanking her for kindness. She left so quickly that I was unable to even ask her name. Finally, I looked in my hand what I found was not just a single one dollar bill but four one dollar bills.
I was very touched not by the money, but by this lovely lady's act of kindness and generosity. Because of her kindness it made Kathy's birthday even more special. I truly believe that dear lady at the very least is one of God's earthly angels and who is to say that she wasn't a real angel. How often is it said that we entertain angels unaware.
- Author Unknown
My children and I were finishing the last minute preparations for Kathy's birthday celebration. At one store we had bought colorful helium balloon with Kathy's favorite character design on it. We had to make one more stop at another store to complete our purchases. I sent out my older daughter and her little brother out to our van while my other daughter and I were waiting at the cashier line.
A very short time later, my older daughter with little brother in tow came running back into the store; upset that Kathy's birthday balloon had escaped while they trying to get into the van. I was tired from shopping, but I sent them back to the vehicle telling them not to worry we would get Kathy another balloon. I paid for our purchases all the while trying to think of the most expedient place to obtain another balloon.
As Kathy and I approached our van a mature looking lady with kindly face came up to us almost of out of thin air. She pressed some folded bills in my hand. She related to me that she had seen what had happened and did not want my older daughter or my younger daughter to be upset at the loss of the balloon. She told us that she was mother, grandmother and great grandmother. Mind you she looked barely old enough to be a grandmother much less a great grandmother.
I thanked her for kindness and attempted to give her the money back; as it was not a problem to get another balloon. She was most insistent because she said "I love children and I like to see them be happy." I was overwhelmed by the kindness of a total stranger that my daughters and I hugged the lady thanking her for kindness. She left so quickly that I was unable to even ask her name. Finally, I looked in my hand what I found was not just a single one dollar bill but four one dollar bills.
I was very touched not by the money, but by this lovely lady's act of kindness and generosity. Because of her kindness it made Kathy's birthday even more special. I truly believe that dear lady at the very least is one of God's earthly angels and who is to say that she wasn't a real angel. How often is it said that we entertain angels unaware.
- Author Unknown
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Life Is A Theater
Invite Your Audience Carefully
Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a DISTANCE.
It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of, or at least minimize your time with, draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships.
Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention.
Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know or appreciate you?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of Your Life.
"If you cannot change the people around you, CHANGE the people you are around."
Remember that the people we hang with will have an impact on both our lives and our income. And so we must be careful to choose the people we hang out with, as well as the information with which we feed our minds.
We should not share our dreams with negative people, Nor feed our dreams with negative thoughts.
It's your choice and your life..... It's up to you who and what you let in it......
- Author Unknown
Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a DISTANCE.
It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of, or at least minimize your time with, draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships.
Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention.
Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know or appreciate you?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of Your Life.
"If you cannot change the people around you, CHANGE the people you are around."
Remember that the people we hang with will have an impact on both our lives and our income. And so we must be careful to choose the people we hang out with, as well as the information with which we feed our minds.
We should not share our dreams with negative people, Nor feed our dreams with negative thoughts.
It's your choice and your life..... It's up to you who and what you let in it......
- Author Unknown
Monday, December 22, 2008
Special Love Quotes
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
~ Mother Teresa
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Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
~ Albert Einstein
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You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love;
the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure
they won't laugh if you trip.
~ Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"
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Ah me! love can not be cured by herbs.
~ Ovid
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Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other
but in looking outward together in the same direction.
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
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When love is not madness, it is not love.
~ Pedro Calderon de la Barca
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Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river.
~ Malagasy Proverb
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You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, she is beautiful because you love her.
~ Author Unknown
~ Mother Teresa
===============================================================
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
~ Albert Einstein
===============================================================
You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love;
the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure
they won't laugh if you trip.
~ Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"
===============================================================
Ah me! love can not be cured by herbs.
~ Ovid
===============================================================
Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other
but in looking outward together in the same direction.
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
===============================================================
When love is not madness, it is not love.
~ Pedro Calderon de la Barca
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Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river.
~ Malagasy Proverb
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You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, she is beautiful because you love her.
~ Author Unknown
Friday, December 19, 2008
Trust Did Not Come Easy
Trust did not come easy
Was 'my' way I did go
No one could change me
Not any one that I know.
Trust did not come easy
Most my nights were sleepless
So I looked around me
And saw my life was a mess.
Trust did not come easy
All things I did were wrong
No one really loved me
I wanted to be so strong.
Trust did not come easy
The storms of life did come
Hitting and hurting me
I could not help but feel dumb.
When I saw light, trust came
I gave my strife away
All the storms God did tame,
For I accepted His way.
- Unknown
Was 'my' way I did go
No one could change me
Not any one that I know.
Trust did not come easy
Most my nights were sleepless
So I looked around me
And saw my life was a mess.
Trust did not come easy
All things I did were wrong
No one really loved me
I wanted to be so strong.
Trust did not come easy
The storms of life did come
Hitting and hurting me
I could not help but feel dumb.
When I saw light, trust came
I gave my strife away
All the storms God did tame,
For I accepted His way.
- Unknown
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